Aries (21 March – 20 April)
The year 2020 will start with a bang brining you opportunities for success and fame. The trend is likely to continue through the year. But the year also will bring situations that will force you to move out of your comfort zone to grow and evolve. Find your uniqueness and strengths rather than comparing with others. Don’t let that comparison dull your shine. First half of the year will be focussed on career and growth. The second half will bring your focus to your relationships. This is an area that you need to pay attention this year. If there have been relationships that have been exhausting and draining you, it is time to create some distance from them so that you can breathe and relax. There is no need to take any decisions, just a need to have some space. Good time will be spent with friends. Avoid overindulgence in food and lifestyle.
One of the components of healing is creating healthy boundaries for yourself. If you have never heard of this idea or think that boundaries are not needed in close relationships, you are not alone. Many people have no idea about boundaries, how to create them or assert them. For them boundaries mean huge walls of alienation, aloneness and telling people to *%&# off.
Boundaries are you defining your space, asserting yourself and your existence. Boundary is about what you accept and what you won’t accept and tolerate. People who have often found themselves as being treated like doormats don’t have any boundaries in place. They are in dysfunctional relationships where the balance of giving and taking is highly skewed. They don’t have any idea of what they like, dislike, how they want to be treated or how to express their desires, they may not even have the idea that they are allowed to express their desires and have them fulfilled.
If you come from a family where you have been abused as a child (I am not talking of just physical and/or sexual abuse that is visible, but also of verbal and emotional abuse which by its very nature is covert and hidden and leave deep emotional scars,) you will have impaired boundaries or no boundaries at all. Your desires, feelings and thoughts did not matter, were often put down or mocked.
This could have been explicit by making fun of you or shouting and yelling at you, it could have been implicit or hidden by making fun of you and calling you too sensitive, criticizing you, shaming you for having such thoughts in the name of “improving you” or “for your own good”.
If you were engulfed and not allowed to make decisions, think for yourself, not allowed any privacy, you were not simply allowed to have any boundaries where you could exert your individuality or even understand your preferences.
It is winter solstice on 21st-22nd December when the sun is furthest from earth and it is longest night or shortest day. It is a time for hibernation, I.e. going within to meditate and contemplate.
Solstice brings intense energies and opens portals for change. This is time for meditation and contemplation. Going against the flow os energies and trying to be active when you body wants to go into rest and meditation, creates problems. This solstice will bring up stuff that has been bothering you subtly since some time. You may be feeling tired, cranky or foggy. Mood swings are a part of this energy shift. Here are a few things you can do to use this energy shift in the best possible manner.
5 simple tips to cleanse and balance your energies this winter solstice
Since the last few days, it seems there is a wave of intense energy in the universe that is prompting changes in many people’s lives. Whenever change happens at the deeper levels of the being, a lot of repressed stuff and patterns come up to be addressed and healed. This is not a comfortable phase as the emotions that are triggered by the changes happening in current relationships and workplace and past events and memories that are surfacing can be too intense to handle.
In such times, it is important to know and be equipped with some tools to handle your emotions and thoughts. One of the most powerful tools to handle emotions that I have known is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Once the emotions settle, it is easier to look into the event and understand what’s really going on and what needs to be done.
Another simple technique that can be used additionally is cord cutting. In our everyday life, whenever we interact with anyone in any way, energetic cords are formed between them and us. If you have been feeling drained and exhausted off late especially after interacting with someone physically or over the phone or Internet, you may have negative energy cords attached to them. If you have a problematic association or interaction with someone and you are connected to them strongly on an emotional level, the cord cutting can help you immensely by clearing the negative energy and creating space for clearer communication.
How to cut cords
Personal Transformation Coach, EFT Trainer, EFT & NLP coach, Healer, Tarot Reader, Author, Reiki Grandmaster and Counselling Psychologist