Creating Better Relationships – Changing Reality Maps

​New beginning can have varied levels of meaning depending on where you are in life. It could be the start of a new job or a relationship; it may be a new beginning in an old relationship or career. It may be a new beginning of your life.
 
When looked at from the perspective of conscious living, new beginning is about unlearning all that you had learnt and learning your truth, living from it. It is when you start seeing life as it is, not as we perceive it. We all live in our reality map and this map is different from everyone else’s map. It is very different from the reality. Our map comprises of how we perceive our world, through what filters such as from love, fear, compassion, feeling of lack or abundance.
 
What is Reality Map? How is it different from Reality As It Is?
 
To explain the concept of reality map, suppose we are designing a map of a city. It has various features like parks, houses, commercial spaces, amusement parks with roller coasters, mountains and lake. In reality, we experience this world through our emotional connections to these places. If we find roller coaster and amusement park exciting and exhilarating, we write on the map – place of joy and fun. If we are afraid of water, we write a fearful feature in place of the lake on the map and so on.
 
This map may be very different from another person’s map as for them a lake may be very refreshing but an amusement park may be scary. But the fact is none of these maps actually mirror the reality. That is why for some people the world is a very scary and difficult place but at the same time for some people the world is a very safe and nurturing space.
 
What does this mean for you?
An experience that is comfortable for you may be uncomfortable for someone else for example, a relationship or social situation. But since we are seeing the world and interpreting it from our reality map, we may not be able to understand what the other person is saying or what he/she means. This is the biggest reason behind misunderstandings and communication gap.
 
Understanding this could mean the difference between a harmonious relationship and a separation.
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